This is Ginny writing...
There are so many unknowns when it comes to adoption. So many questions that we don't know the answer to. One of our jobs as Mia's parents is to piece together her story the best way we can.
Parents in China can't legally give up their child so instead that must "abandon" them. When you hear the word "abandonment" it is hard not to think of how awful that is and wonder how any loving parent could do this.
When you adopt a child from a chinese orphanage you are given information as to where and when your child was found. In our case, our Mia was found at a first aid station in Guiyang City.
I will admit that when I first learned about Mia's abandonment I had a hard time thinking about what her birth parents did to her. It is no secret that Mia was involved in some sort of train accident that caused her to lose her left forearm. I had visions of her being abandoned because she was no longer "perfect". In my mind I was picturing a very healthy child (minus a forearm) being left at age 5 and being so scared. What must she had been thinking as she saw her parents drive away? It was hard to wrap my mind around this and also how to explain this to her when she was older.
But this week, through clues we have been given, we are realizing her story is so much different then we first thought. We found out that Mia didn't go to the orphanage immediately after she was found. Instead, she spent the first 2-3 months in the hospital.
According to her foster mother, Mia really doesn't remember her time in the hospital. We noticed she has a scar on her neck and think she may have been on some sort of respirator or breathing machine. We think she must have been sedated for a very long time which would make perfect sense considering her traumatic experience and injuries.
That also means that her birth parents did not take a perfectly healthy child minus a forearm to a first aid station. I think about the injuries Mia must of had (obviously to her arm and there is also a scar on her cheek) and can only imagine the sort of condition she was in. My guess is that Mia wasn't even conscious.
Her parents did the only thing they could do. They saved her life. I am quite certain they did not have the money to pay for hospital care. There are many very poor people in Guiyang City.
When kids in China are abandoned they are found in different places... parks, in the market place (places where the parents know the child will be found). Mia's parents didn't abandon her in a park or in a marketplace. They left her on the doorstep of a first aid station. Mia's parents left her in the perfect place where they knew she would get the care she needed. Her birth parents loved her so much.
It is evident that Mia has been well cared for and loved not only by her birth parents but her foster parents as well. I love that her foster family had the identical family make up that we have. She had an older brother, a younger baby brother, and sister about her age. I think that is so cool.
Someday I hope Mia can find her birth parents and tell them she is okay. She made it! I would love to thank them for the awesome job they have done in raising such a sweet and wonderful little girl. Mia's parents loved her so much and that is evident in the loving person that Mia is today.
There are so many unknowns when it comes to adoption. So many questions that we don't know the answer to. One of our jobs as Mia's parents is to piece together her story the best way we can.
Parents in China can't legally give up their child so instead that must "abandon" them. When you hear the word "abandonment" it is hard not to think of how awful that is and wonder how any loving parent could do this.
When you adopt a child from a chinese orphanage you are given information as to where and when your child was found. In our case, our Mia was found at a first aid station in Guiyang City.
I will admit that when I first learned about Mia's abandonment I had a hard time thinking about what her birth parents did to her. It is no secret that Mia was involved in some sort of train accident that caused her to lose her left forearm. I had visions of her being abandoned because she was no longer "perfect". In my mind I was picturing a very healthy child (minus a forearm) being left at age 5 and being so scared. What must she had been thinking as she saw her parents drive away? It was hard to wrap my mind around this and also how to explain this to her when she was older.
But this week, through clues we have been given, we are realizing her story is so much different then we first thought. We found out that Mia didn't go to the orphanage immediately after she was found. Instead, she spent the first 2-3 months in the hospital.
According to her foster mother, Mia really doesn't remember her time in the hospital. We noticed she has a scar on her neck and think she may have been on some sort of respirator or breathing machine. We think she must have been sedated for a very long time which would make perfect sense considering her traumatic experience and injuries.
That also means that her birth parents did not take a perfectly healthy child minus a forearm to a first aid station. I think about the injuries Mia must of had (obviously to her arm and there is also a scar on her cheek) and can only imagine the sort of condition she was in. My guess is that Mia wasn't even conscious.
Her parents did the only thing they could do. They saved her life. I am quite certain they did not have the money to pay for hospital care. There are many very poor people in Guiyang City.
When kids in China are abandoned they are found in different places... parks, in the market place (places where the parents know the child will be found). Mia's parents didn't abandon her in a park or in a marketplace. They left her on the doorstep of a first aid station. Mia's parents left her in the perfect place where they knew she would get the care she needed. Her birth parents loved her so much.
It is evident that Mia has been well cared for and loved not only by her birth parents but her foster parents as well. I love that her foster family had the identical family make up that we have. She had an older brother, a younger baby brother, and sister about her age. I think that is so cool.
Someday I hope Mia can find her birth parents and tell them she is okay. She made it! I would love to thank them for the awesome job they have done in raising such a sweet and wonderful little girl. Mia's parents loved her so much and that is evident in the loving person that Mia is today.
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